4. Relationship loneliness
When I first came out of my shell after my 30th birthday, I dated Cara, a woman I met at work. We hung out only once a week, spending the other six days catching up with a smattering of two-minute phone calls.
Before Cara, I hadn’t been in a relationship for several years. While dating her, I somehow felt even more lonely than during my long dry spell.
Cara and I talked, but our conversations were rushed and often superficial. We connected physically, but those moments were brief. When we weren’t together, I felt hamstrung, unable to seek the connection I needed because of my commitment to Cara.