We haven’t had sex in two months. Have you reverted into an asexual being?
The car is still filthy. Just like our marriage, you do everything half-assed.
To subdue the contempt threat, follow these suggestions:
- Deal with problems as they arise.
- Gottman advises building a culture of fondness and admiration. Tell your partner why you love them, why you’re proud of them, what quirks about them turn you on. It’s not enough to tell them they’re wonderful. You need to explain why.